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If you ever ask a friend for advice on picking up a woman you will invariably hear two suggestions – be yourself and be confident. These two clichés are bandied about more than any other in the dating game and I’m hear today to tell you that both are utter hogwash.

But how can that be when you hear that advice all the time? Well there’s certainly an element of truth…once you are already a master of the dating game. However when you’re making your first forays into the art of seduction then there is only one thing you should focus on – interest.

When I say “interest” I mean you have to be interesting and look as if you are genuinely interested in the woman you are talking, even if your only goal is to get them in your bed at the end of the night and nothing more. This is why being yourself may not be a good idea at first. Most people are actually frightening dull and they don’t even realize it.

It’s been said that people pay more attention to nonverbal communication than the verbal kind. If this is indeed true then, without doubt, taking the time to master your own body language is time well spent.

This is particularly true of attracting women with your body language. Women typically respond well to men they deem to appear strong, assertive, confident and in control. So how do you make yourself appear that way? Well here are a few pointers on body language that will make you appear more attractive to any woman.

1.  Slow down. A slow, steady pace of verbal and nonverbal communication is closely associated with confidence in mating psychology. Think about whenever you see someone who’s talking at a hundred miles per hour and tapping their foot and twitching. They look nervous and edgy. Slow down your speech and movements and you will immediately look confident and in control.

2. Hand gestures. Think about all the best orators in history and how they used hand gestures to engage people when they talked. Practice using hand gestures while you talk to people, but as I said below, make sure your movements are slow and confident.

To truly master the seductive arts you need to learn how to use fractional rapport hooks. As you will probably already know rapport is the conversational bond you create with another person. If you have been studying NLP and conversational hypnosis you should already be able to build rapport pretty easily. What you are able to do with fractional rapport hooks is better hide the fact you are using “secret” and “covert” and also get a person really wanting your attention.

How is this done? Well the idea of fractional rapport is to offer your target your complete attention for a short period of time and hook them in with an incomplete story or piece of information. Then you take all of this away. This leaves the person you were talking to wanting more and craving your attention again.

Most people know a guy who’s a bit of a jerk with women, constantly playing hot and cold, yet they are consistently surrounded by them. At first it makes no sense to you but without knowing it (in most cases) they are using fractional rapport hooks. You too can experience great success with this method, and you don’t have to be a jerk about it…unless you want to be.

Presuppositions are considered to be one of the most powerful language patterns within NLP. The idea is to presuppose an outcome as if it is guaranteed to happen. When used correctly the person you are talking to will make the connection that this outcome is bound to happen. For example if you are meeting with a new client to discuss a contract you might use the line “Before we finalize the contract, would you like something to drink?”. It sounds like you are giving your client a choice, but in reality the choices having nothing to do with each other. You are steering them towards what you want to happen.

Here you can see that the fact that finalizing the contract has been presupposed within a question about having something to drink. The desired outcome has been presupposed. You can use such presuppositions to control the flow and tempo of the conversation so that you always end up presupposing the outcome you want. Before long these frequent presuppositions and suggestions will stick to your target’s subconscious mind and the outcome won’t be in the question at all. It will be as if you both wanted the same thing from the very get go.